Friday, February 18, 2011

Friend Friday: Loving Your Body Image

I'm still getting over my cold, but I'm miles better compared to the past couple of days. No outfit posts still because I'm homebound for the most part today. I'm even setting up my D&D from afar. (Hubs made the meeting today, I was crashed out until well after noon).

1. Since you started blogging has your image of yourself changed? Definitely. I used to be really self conscious about non perfect photos of me. Now I tend to post the ones where I'm laughing or actually smiling or look less than posed. I've come to accept myself as I look. I still feel nitpicky some days, but the good outweigh the bad.

2. Are you self-conscious about any aspect of yourself? If so, do you go out of your way to avoid it or do you post it/talk about it anyway? I really dislike my smile. I tend to find my mouth area awkward looking in pictures. I do tend to be more aware of what I'm doing with my face, making sure to make a certain neutral expression or not smiling too big. I actually really like my teeth though!

I'm also very aware of my thin calves/ankles. It bothers me a lot less than it used to, mainly due to the blog. I can see what's flattering and what's not. I tend to like a shapely leg and mine are rather straight and skinny.

I like the way my arms look, but I'm very self-conscious about fabric over my upper arms. I have (non-red) KP on the backs of my arms that causes a lot of irritations some days so I wear a lot of sleeveless things because I can't stand having my arms 'confined'. I know a lot women prefer to keep their arms covered, but I'm actually much more comfortable with them bare. I fuss a lot about sleeves on the blog, but never explain why (to my knowledge).

3. Based on how you are feeling now, what do you think the future holds in the evolution of your body image? I can only see it improving. I've learned a lot of acceptance for different aspects of myself. I'm not weighing myself against ridiculous standards or trying to make my petite stature be tall and willowy or curvy and bodacious. I am me.

4. Do you photograph yourself for your blog? If so, how do you feel about the experience when you’re having your picture taken? If you choose not to post pictures of yourself, what prompted that decision? Yes, this particular blog started solely as a photo blog. I didn't write a lot of commentary or things about my life then. I actually really enjoy being able to catalog how I've worn my clothing. I find new combinations just by looking back over my 'history'. I enjoy having my photos taken because I have my husband weigh in on what I'm wearing. It makes me feel like he is taking my interest in fashion seriously, where a lot of people kindof laugh off my "fashion blog".

5. What would you want every person who struggles with body image to take to heart?
Be yourself. Accept yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself. Love yourself. You're the only you that you've got. ^_~


  1. Interesting! I wish you would smile more - maybe it is just a case of getting used to seeing what you look like when you're smiling? I know that my own blog has been invaluable to me in finally helping me see what I actually look like (as someone who was once very overweight, I tend to skew to a very distorted body image).

  2. @ Sheila - I do try! Some days I forget, but I try to at least give a small smile. It really is a matter of getting used to myself. I'll try harder to remember to smile. =]

  3. You are lovely. And I really do love your smile. I understand being self-conscious about it. But I think you're beautiful always.

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  4. I definitely enjoyed reading your answers! Thanks so much for sharing! My body image has changed since starting my blog too, but it's weird, because in some ways I have gotten more critical, and in many others less... it's complicated. I am definitely more aware of how body image issues can hit different people differently, and I hope it's made me a better person and more helpful to other people.

    And I TOTALLY understand (er, I think do anyway) about smiling... er... okay, so no one see's my facial expressions on my blog. But seriously, I cannot smile intentionally for a camera in a way I'm satisfied with! Your pictures are great though! :)


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